There was a wise man *who did not grieve when his son died.
his wife said to him "no one in the world loved his son as much as you did *why don't you grieve now he is dead?"
he answered" i had no son*and when i had no son i didn't grieve*Now that he is dead it's the same as it was before *when i had no son .Why should i grieve over him?"
Ordinarily*this is our logic*that if you love a person too much you will grieve too much when he is gone.The logic is fallacious;the logic has a very deep flaw in it.In fact*if you have loved a person really*when he is gone he is gone; you will not grieve much.If you not loved the person deeply *then you will grieve very much .Try to understand it...
Your father dies.If you have loved him totally while he was alive *you will be able to say goobye to him without any grief-because you loved him.The experienceof love was total and fulfilling*nothing is left undone*nothing is hanging over your head.What was possible has happened;now you can accept it.What more is possible?? Even if he had alive *what more would have been possible? the experience is complete.
Whenever an experience is complete*you are ready to say goodbyevery easily.But if you have not love your father*as you always wanted to*you havn't been respectful towards him as you always wanted to* you will feel guilty.Now he is gone ;now there's no way to fulfil your desire you feel yourself hanging in the middle*you will cry and weep and you will be broken
It's just a missed opportunity
so dear brothers and sisters let's try not to miss the oppotunity and complete the experience with those who we love.
Ash .
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