A missed opportunity

[nature boy]

There was a wise man *who did not grieve when his son died.
his wife said to him "no one in the world loved his son as much as you did *why don't you grieve now he is dead?"
he answered" i had no son*and when i had no son i didn't grieve*Now that he is dead it's the same as it was before *when i had no son .Why should i grieve over him?"


Ordinarily*this is our logic*that if you love a person too much you will grieve too much when he is gone.The logic is fallacious;the logic has a very deep flaw in it.In fact*if you have loved a person really*when he is gone he is gone; you will not grieve much.If you not loved the person deeply *then you will grieve very much .Try to understand it...

Your father dies.If you have loved him totally while he was alive *you will be able to say goobye to him without any grief-because you loved him.The experienceof love was total and fulfilling*nothing is left undone*nothing is hanging over your head.What was possible has happened;now you can accept it.What more is possible?? Even if he had alive *what more would have been possible? the experience is complete.
Whenever an experience is complete*you are ready to say goodbyevery easily.But if you have not love your father*as you always wanted to*you havn't been respectful towards him as you always wanted to* you will feel guilty.Now he is gone ;now there's no way to fulfil your desire you feel yourself hanging in the middle*you will cry and weep and you will be broken

It's just a missed opportunity

so dear brothers and sisters let's try not to miss the oppotunity and complete the experience with those who we love.


Ash .

[nature boy]

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hey guys* i really want to thank u Adania at least u read the topic unlike the other in this language forum . i dont know i thought that means something to u as it reallly meant a lot to me .

Ash

[**..AhMeD..**]

so u r saying that f we love that person so much we shouldn't grieve for his passing..

n f we didn't love him enough we should grieve for the moments we missed..


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that s an opinion for sure n t has ts reasons as well

but

other may say that...

to grieve over a loved person s an expression of how much u loved him n feeling sorry fo ths loss..
n f he was not that dear to u then t didn't effect ur feelings that much to express t.

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but there s a deep meaning n ur words nature boy..




i'd like to say a hint to u bro
sometimes we all post some posts n get no replay for t

we shouldn't complain at others
we should look for the reason why..?

maybe the hall section was week n not full of members that period.
maybe i don't respond to other posts so i am not so popular..

alot of reasons nature boy

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but t s always good to have u around

urs
AhMeD

[ديلو]

well .. as much as it's strange .. it's so supported to those who have lost someone they love ..

The best part in this philosophy is when u reach the end ... I mean the advice you gave about not missing the opportunity ..

thanks for that nature boy ..

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