A missed opportunity

There was a wise man *who did not grieve when his son died.
his wife said to him "no one in the world loved his son as much as you did *why don't you grieve now he is dead?"
he answered" i had no son*and when i had no son i didn't grieve*Now that he is dead it's the same as it was before *when i had no son .Why should i grieve over him?"


Ordinarily*this is our logic*that if you love a person too much you will grieve too much when he is gone.The logic is fallacious;the logic has a very deep flaw in it.In fact*if you have loved a person really*when he is gone he is gone; you will not grieve much.If you not loved the person deeply *then you will grieve very much .Try to understand it...

Your father dies.If you have loved him totally while he was alive *you will be able to say goobye to him without any grief-because you loved him.The experienceof love was total and fulfilling*nothing is left undone*nothing is hanging over your head.What was possible has happened;now you can accept it.What more is possible?? Even if he had alive *what more would have been possible? the experience is complete.
Whenever an experience is complete*you are ready to say goodbyevery easily.But if you have not love your father*as you always wanted to*you havn't been respectful towards him as you always wanted to* you will feel guilty.Now he is gone ;now there's no way to fulfil your desire you feel yourself hanging in the middle*you will cry and weep and you will be broken

It's just a missed opportunity

so dear brothers and sisters let's try not to miss the oppotunity and complete the experience with those who we love.


Ash .

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hey guys* i really want to thank u Adania at least u read the topic unlike the other in this language forum . i dont know i thought that means something to u as it reallly meant a lot to me .

Ash

so u r saying that f we love that person so much we shouldn't grieve for his passing..

n f we didn't love him enough we should grieve for the moments we missed..


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that s an opinion for sure n t has ts reasons as well

but

other may say that...

to grieve over a loved person s an expression of how much u loved him n feeling sorry fo ths loss..
n f he was not that dear to u then t didn't effect ur feelings that much to express t.

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but there s a deep meaning n ur words nature boy..




i'd like to say a hint to u bro
sometimes we all post some posts n get no replay for t

we shouldn't complain at others
we should look for the reason why..?

maybe the hall section was week n not full of members that period.
maybe i don't respond to other posts so i am not so popular..

alot of reasons nature boy

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but t s always good to have u around

urs
AhMeD

well .. as much as it's strange .. it's so supported to those who have lost someone they love ..

The best part in this philosophy is when u reach the end ... I mean the advice you gave about not missing the opportunity ..

thanks for that nature boy ..

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